Reflect on an experience in which you were hurt or troubled
an interaction whose emotional impact has stayed with you.
What is the hurt I felt, or still feel?
Am I open to what my pain may teach me?
I let the hurts come into my awareness,
lift them up, and look behind them.
What gifts were at work in me during this experience?
What strengths, wisdom or grace assisted me?
How was I accompanied?
I let these things come into my awareness;
lift them up, and give thanks.
How was my shadow involved?
What was my part, that contributed to the trouble?
What wounds were at work in me?
Did hidden energies of fear, anger, or grief in me
shape what happened?
I let these things come into my awareness;
lift them up, seek healing, and accept forgiveness.
And what was beyond my control?
What would have happened no matter what I did?
What were the other person’s choices, not mine?
What do I need to let go of?
I let these things come into my awareness;
lift them up, and let them go.
What of love have I learned?
I let these things come into my awareness;
lift them up, and give thanks.
* I’m adapting the examen, an ancient prayer form contemplating how we have been both in and out of harmony with God. It’s often called an “examination of conscience; ” I call it an examination of consciousness, exploring both our light and shadow sides.
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Steve Garnaas-Holmes
Unfolding Light
www.unfoldinglight.net
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